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Happy Birthday Dusty!

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Today is Dusty’s 35th birthday!  HAPPY BIRTHDAY DUSTY! 

This last round of chemo was a tough one.  Starting last Friday I started feeling like I was beat up or in a bad car accident.  Everything hurts; even my teeth.  Today is a little better.  Other than that I’m fine. 

Dusty and I met with Dr. Gootjes this week.  She has been talking to Dr. Hoberman and Dr. VanderWoude about the genetic testing.  I was under the impression that since my genetic testing came back negative that we wouldn’t have to remove my ovaries.  They’re considering removing them because of my survival rate and the triple negative status of my cancer.  They ordered a CA125 blood test to check for abnormalities in my ovaries.  If it comes back that there are abnormalties then we’re removing the ovaries at the same time as my mastectomy.  Either way, I’m having a hysterectomy and a mastectomy at the same time.  I feel like I’m going to be gutted like a fish! 

This is very overwhelming.  Sometimes I feel like I can’t wrap my mind around what’s happening.  I feel like I’m living someone else’s sucky life.   Within the next month or two I’m going to finish chemo, start growing my hair back (yeah!), have a mastectomy, hysterectomy (with possible ovary removal) and begin radiation.  The recovery for the surgeries is 3-6 weeks with no lifting for 6 weeks.  I have two babies.  This is very hard for me to accept.  I can’t lift my kids for six weeks!  My mom, Jill and Kathy tell me not to worry about that because they are giving excellent care to my kids.  I agree that they are – the kids are so happy, but as a mom it’s a really difficult thought. 

I know this sounds crazy, but I can’t wait for my last round of chemo.  I just want the chemo part over with.  Jill says she’s going to bake a “last chemo” cake and we’re going to have a party in the chemo room.  Sounds fun doesn’t it? 

Brooklyn started Kindergarten this week.  It was so strange packing her a lunch and having her gone all day!  She had a great time and seems to be enjoying it.   

Max has finally given up his army crawl and is crawling “normal”.  Samantha is still cruising and crawling.  They’re doing great.  They like to go on walks and sometimes they fall asleep. 


25 Responses to “Happy Birthday Dusty!”

  1. Jenifer TenHarmsel says:

    Tell Dusty Happy B-day for me. The pictures of the kids are great it looks like all of them are doing very well. I can’t even imagine how tough things have been on this crazy journey but you are getting there one day at a time. The road bumps haven’t stopped yet but you will get there. Your strength even though I’m sure some days seems non-existant is AMAZING- God will continue to hold your hand and guide you to the end of all of this. I will continue to keep all of you in my prayers!!! Jen

  2. Jill Graves says:

    Happy Birthday Dusty!
    Next week is going to be bittersweet. While one chapter of this journey is coming to a end, I know that the next couple of months are weighing heavily on your mind. Let’s take this one day at a time and celebrate how far you have come next week. I’ll bring the cake and party hats…you bring your smile.

  3. I never know what to say on these blog comments, i don’t want to sound cliche mushy, but i want you to know that you are an amazing woman, you hve such a good attitude! I don’t even have that good of an attitude 99% of the time! I am SO glad you are one round away from being DONE with chemo! Think about you guys all the time, and still praying hard for a full recovery!! Your kiddos are ADORABLE! i am going to ball my eyes out when ethan goes to preschool!! See you at small group in a few weeks! (:

  4. julie sal says:

    Praying daily. Thanks for the cute pics of the kids–they are so adorable!

  5. Missy VerBeek says:

    Happy birthday Dusty! You guys are in our thoughts and prayers daily.

  6. Holly says:

    I had to kinda laugh when you say….”The last chemo was rough etc etc, but OTHER THAN THAT I’M FINE!!” As if that sentence you typed was like ‘oh I got a bruise on my knee, but other than that i’m fine!’ YOUR GOING THROUGH CHEMO, GIRL!! Your so cute….’other than that I’m fine’ sheesh! You are a trouper and so courageous!
    When I’m running that 5k and can’t make, I’m going to be thinking about how hard this has been for you and KEEP GOING!
    Brooklyn is so cute by the school sign…I cried a lot when Caleb went this week! Sooo hard! He’s gone from like 8am till 4pm! Just really different without him here…he is growing up! Brook will love kindergarten I’m sure!
    Take care…we’ll keep praying! I’m glad you feel a little better today and hopefully can have a great holiday weekend!
    Happy birthday Dust! I just turned 35 too! 🙂

  7. Pam says:

    I know this will sound odd considering the cancer and other medical trauma you are going through – but seeing the pictures of those 2 beautiful babies sleeping in the stroller made me think “This woman is blessed.” I don’t know you (I think I got your blog from reading another blog… you know how that goes) but I am trusting in our great and mighty God to handle your every care.

  8. Amy Sluiter says:

    I’m sorry this round of chemo was so hard! Thanks for your honesty! I’m praying that this will soon be all behind you. I know it seems overwhelming to think about all that is going to happen in the next few months. Try to take it one day at a time. You are so strong! And God is even stronger and He WILL get you through! I LOVE the pictures of the kids. They are such incredible blessings! Love you guys. And Happy Birthday Dusty!

  9. barb baumann says:

    Praying…for you. “The Lord gives strength to His people: the Lord blesses His people with peace.”
    Psalm 29:11

    In His Grip..barb

  10. Liz TenCate says:

    Happy Birthday,Dusty!
    You are all in our thoughts and prayers! What cute pictures of the kids, they’re such a blessing and we know God will bless you too as you continue on this journey! God is so Good he will get you thru, one day at a time! We’ll pray for peace to get thru each day!
    Love ya!

  11. Jana Ver Beek says:

    I just read all the comments people sent to you. You are surrounded with people who love and care for you so much. When you feel crappy, it’s probably hard to realize all that.
    God has you wrapped in His loving, healing and comforting embrace. Hang on to that, Lindy!
    Love you, Jana
    P.S. Happy 35th little bro!!!

  12. Kim says:

    First of all, please tell Dusty I’m so glad that he is another person that just turned 35 before me.. yeah:) That is a good feeling:) Next.. those pictures of your kids are totally adorable, Brooklin in k-garten… wow!! I cried when Austin started 1st grade this week, those are some bittersweet moments! And next… you are SOOO inspiring, you can do this girl, look how far you are?? Yeah!!!! You may not be able to lift those sweet babies, but someone else can for you “temporarily” and you can still hold em tight:) Praying for strength and peace in the days ahead!!

  13. Dani says:


    Last time of chemo that is so awesome!! I am praying that God will give you the strength in the next two weeks. You are almost done.

  14. Jana Ver Beek says:

    LOVE the giggling twin video!! Too cute! Praying you have a good day today. The end of “chemoland” is near!
    Love, Jana

  15. Michelle says:

    Happy Birthday Dusty! Your children are absolutely beautiful. Thank you for the postings, it’s so great to see Brooklyn at the ZCS sign, I just took a picture of Brennan at the same sign this week! Hang in there Lindy, you are a trooper, a fighter, and as unfortunate as this is for you, you will get through it, and your children will be so proud of you for all you have endured with 3 young babies at home. God is with you, and so many people are praying for you. With love. Michelle

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