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Three Long Years

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It’s been about three years since I found my lump.  In mid April 2009, after being misdiagnosed with Mastitis and being put on three rounds of antibiotics, I was officially diagnosed with cancer on Memorial Day Weekend 2009.

Cancer has stolen from me the last three years.  Moments that can never be replaced.  I hate cancer.

However, I have learned a few things.  How to be more compassionate.  How to truly give.  What it means to surrender.  How it feels to talk to your child about death and dying.  How great our church and community is.  How awesome my husband and kids are.  Every giggle and smile.  When I see them running in the yard chasing a butterfly or bird.  It’s the best.  My parents and how much they do to help.  I am blessed because I am being held in God’s hand and cheered on by so many wonderful and loving people.

As for how I’m feeling, since the SRS surgery I’ve had less headaches and am doing alright.  I go back in May for a CT Scan to check on the cancer in my lungs and I’ll go back in June for an MRI to check on the results of the SRS surgery on the cancer in my brain.

Thank you for your love, prayers, cookies, cards and kindness.

13 Responses to “Three Long Years”

  1. dad ver beek says:

    Hello Lindy…. Three long years for us too…. But God has done amazing things. We continue to lean on him. You have made it so clear, it’s the little things that count !! the butterfly, the birds, the family gatherings. Was so wonderful to spend Easter with you and and our whole family at Jana’s. What a joy !!! Blessings to you. Love, Dad V.B.

  2. Susan Smith says:

    Hello, Lindy. Three years is a long road. You were originally told a year would be a long road. Here’s hoping that in the future you will be posting that 20 years has been a long road, but worth every fighting moment. Miracles happen. Keep enjoying every little moment, but please keep looking forward. We will continue to pray for you and your family and that you find daily peace and comfort. Love, Susan

  3. Tara says:

    what a survivor you are. may GOD grant you the peace that passes ALL understanding. i am praying for you and your family. make each day wonderful.

  4. Megan VK says:

    Lindy, thank you for sharing your journey with us these three years. God has made you stronger and stronger through all the struggles you’ve faced. Definitely changes our perspective on what’s truly important. You have a lot of people praying for you and I still believe God can turn it around. Love you guys!

  5. Joni says:

    You are often on my mind and always in my prayers.

  6. Grace says:

    I have been following your blog and praying for you for a number of years after learning of your need for prayer from relatives in MI. You are an AMAZING woman and the courage, grace and faith that you have shown in dealing with your illness. I will continue to keep you in prayer on your journey, and that God will take away your illness and restore your health. Continue to lean on your faith and family and circle of friends.
    God Bless You Lindy!
    Grace, WA State

  7. Betty Kroll says:

    Hi Dusty and Lindy; Just want you to know that we continue to think about you and your family. Prayers for you.

  8. Michelle says:

    I continue to pray for you and your family and for patience and for healing and for so many other things. But I pray for you a lot. Just wanted to let you know. :0)

  9. Rachel Baird says:

    A long three years indeed. I think of you all the time. I am glad the headaches are less severe and less frequent and I’ll pray that your May and June tests reveal good news. Love to you all.

  10. Jim t. says:

    Hi Lindy, We continue to see your strength in the truth! Thank you for being an example of a true child of God! Our family continues to pray for healing, positive attitude, less pain,your loving husband, great children and your parents and family members..
    Have a blessed day!
    Jim and Kath

  11. Aunt Carole says:

    Precious Lindy, Why God has allowed “you” to travel this path is unknown to us. But this we do know – you and your family have made the choice to get beyond “Why” and move on to serving Him to the best of your ability in all circumstances! And serve Him well, you all have done! How precious you are to Him, and how proud of you He is! Whenever your day comes to meet Him face to face, no truer words will have been spoken when He tells you, “Well done good & faithful servant”!! You have taught us all well to cherish each moment, each giggle, each bird song, our families, and being held in the palm of God’s hand. When your cancer was allowed into your life, it was given to each one of us. I just wish I could bear your burden for you. So as you continue this journey, remember that God’s favor is always upon you in unknown and mysterious ways, His eyes never lose sight of you, your pain is His pain, and His victory is your victory. Feel His touch, hear His voice, see His tears for you, and know His healing power. And know, that with every breath you take, someone is praying for you! Shalom, dear child of God!

  12. Erin says:

    Lindy: You do not even know me. I am not even sure how I cam across your blog a while back?? I think about and pray for you often. You have no idea what you have caused in my life. I have been in what I though was despair and then I check our blog and realize that I have it so easy compared to you. You are in the face of cancer and so many unknowns and you go through it with courage, power and grace. You always mention to enjoy the little things. That is so hard for me at times. You have made me realize so many times that the little things are so important–like baking with my daughters….listening to their problems…making time to “chase the butterflies”… I am a full time teacher and graduate student and you have made me realize how none of that truly matters at the end of the day. At the end of the day, I need to make sure that my daughters know how much I love and accept them. I also realize that I need to make time for the man in my life–my husband and to enjoy every moment we have because you do not know what lies ahead. I pray for a super natural healing with your cancer. You are truly an amazing woman!!

  13. dad ver beek says:

    Lindy…. Wow !!! God continues to do Amazing things in your life and through your life. Blessings to you sweet lady. Love, Dad V.B.

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